He's Just Not That Into You

My roommate Nana told me about this new book called "He's Just Not That Into You" that she read. I was intrigued with the idea so I went and picked it up and just finished reading it. I seriously recommend every girl in their early 20s to read it because I think that we put way in too much time getting hung up on particular guys when the guy is actually just not interested in you and their actions speak it really clearly. I literally just spend 3 months liking one boy when it was completely not worth it. Sure, now I can look back and kick myself for being so retarded and wonder what I was thinking during this time, but at the time it seemed like this guy was perfect and something must be wrong with me if he didnt want to date. But there were some parts of the book that made me laugh out loud and realize that I need to wake up, smell the coffee, and not care so much.

The book was written by writers of Sex and the City, one of my favorite shows. They were talking bout this one staff writer who was getting mixed messages from a guy:

"On this day, Greg listened intently to the story and our reactions, and then said to the woman in question, 'Listen, it sounds like he's just not that into you.' We were shocked, appalled, amused, horrified and above all else, intrigued. We sensed immediately that this man might be speaking the truth. A truth that we, in our combined 100 years of dating experience, had never considered and definitely never considered saying outloud. 'Ok he might have a point,' we relunctantly agreed. 'But Greg couldn't possibly understand my very busy and complicated possible future husband.' We had excuses for all these men from broken dialing fingers to difficult childhoods. In the end, one by one, they were shot down by Greg's powerful silver bullet. Greg made us see, after an enormous amound of effort, that if a sane guy really likes you there aint nothing that is going to get in his way. And if he's not sane, why would you want him?

A collective epiphany burst forth in the room. All these years I'd been complaining about men and their mixed messages; now I saw they werent mixed messages at all. I was the one that was mixed up. Becase the fact was, these men had simply not been that into me.

Knowledge is power, and more importantly, knowledge saves us time. I realized that from this day forward I would be spared hours and hours of waiting by the phone, hours of obsessing with my girlfriends, hours of just hoping his mixed messages really meant 'Im in love with you and want to be with you. Greg reminded us that we were all beautiful, smart funny women and we shouldn't be wasting our time figuring out why a guy isn't calling us. As Greg put it, we shouldn't waste the pretty."

Maybe it's just me, but I can relate so many of my situations in the past two years to situations described in the book. And the whole while, if I'd realized that they just weren't that into me and were using these generic excuses to convey that, I wouldve saved myself months of wondering what the hell was going on.

But I still need to find a date to Diamond Ball. hehe.